Category: Teen Topics
So I've been on the zone for maybe a year and a half, and in all the time I've been hear, most of the guys hear, and actually a few girls, have been very very creepy. It's always been very strange to me how adults that are older then 21 try to hit on girls that are younger. I'm not saying they're bad people, but there behavior is sorta disgusting. My question for people is though, do people like this ever get there accounts banned? What if it isn't just one person on the zone that thinks one certain person is being creepy? If enough people feel that way about one person, can that person get banned?
If the person was o8er 18, and the person was 21 then I think they are two concenting adults. If the person that is being hit on is a minor, I think the older person has to be the adult in the situation. I'm pretty sure that if came to the ears of the admons the older aduld would have to be band. Also, that's why the ignore feature exists too. Maybe someone like lutherk, who has more than 500 people on ignore can be band, but what I know, right?
To post 1.
You said you don't think they're bad people but maybe creepy. I'm paraphrasing.
I'm guessing you are under-age, you sound like it. They are "bad people," e.g. violating the law regarding unconsenting minors, if you a high schooler are being hit on by someone older. Leaving aside the gray area of when people lie in their profiles and so the older one thinks the younger one is older, let us assume we have here what it looks like: you, a teenager, and someone older hitting on you. This can lead to the sexual exploitation of a minor - you.
Now what the admins could or should do about it may be one thing, and I realize your question shows me your age: you aren't yet old enough to ask what you should do about it, or what you can do about it. But these are the questions you need to be asking if you're going to be online. It's like going out: you know you could be followed and probably have been told to stay together with your friends and stay in well lit areas.
Well, online there are a couple things you can do: First, put the person on ignore. Go into your account and under Edit Ignore Settings you can add them to the ignore list. And if you're feeling violated or harassed by someone I suggest you check all the boxes to ignore everything. Then, they cannot contact you again.
Also, just because someone contacts you does not mean you are obligated to respond. Their first contact is not technically harassment in most cases. Even I in my 40s feel plenty free to just not respond to some people. I understand at your age you're going to be taken up with the drama and excitement of saying 'eewww how creeepy.' But trust me, simply not responding causes people to move on.
Also I would consider
But, then again, with creepy having changed meaning these days and people use it for everything, hell, maybe I am even creepy or even you. Seriously, you will need to learn to be specific about what is bothering you. For instance, when I was your age, creepy meant someone you expected would take a girl out, duct tape her up and leave her in a ditch, or something like that. Now, according to kids, it's more somebody said something you didn't like behind a keyboard. So if you want any assistance be specific about what it is you actually want.
I also suggest you read the topic called "Crossing the Line" on this Teen Topics board.
Her profile says she's 18, so of legal age to be hit on.
Remember, if you approach a girl, or guy under 18 you might be termed creepy by your own defining terms.
Now, as Leo says Creepy depends.
To answer your question, no, an older person man or woman can not be banned for hitting on a minor, because the site has things in place to prevent it.
If the minor continues to receive the attenchen, they are not using the device set up.
It doesn't have to even be creepy. You don't with to talk to a person for any reason, you ignore them.
Problem solved.
The law says a 13 year old can be among adults on any site, so all the admins can do is put devices in place.
Also, I didn't say, but on any site, the terms of service are the ruling factor to if a person stays or gets the boot.
If you wish to know what a person can and can not do, read these, and you'll know exactly.
hey leo. I'm 18 years of age. And I ask because, yes, I do put people on ignore, all the time. There have been people here who have hinted at wanting to have online sex and for me, that's a very big no no. The reason I ask is because of people like lutherk, or hermiodle. People put them on ignore all the time. But I guess I was curious if the admins ever worry about that. One thing that is very disgusting and disturbing to me is somebody like hermiodle. He doesn't just want sexual exploitation, he says things that are flat out scary and disgusting, and very wrong to be posting online. That's why I was curious. And it's not even people you talk to for a long time. It's people who just pqn you and ask if you would like to take part in this kind of behavior. It's people you don't even know.
The thing about your argument that you're failing to take into consideration is that wrong and against the rules are not always the same thing, and what is wrong to you may not be wrong to others.
Lets take your example of inviting you to join in online sex. You find this to be wrong because of your principles, and that's your choice. But simply because you find it wrong doesn't actually make it wrong. I find it funny.
Another example, here in florida we have a lot of very very fat people who go around in very very small pieces of clothing, like bikinis or short shorts. I think its wrong because it looks disgusting. They think its perfectly fine. I have the right to think its wrong and avoid them, they have the right to wear what they want.
Basically what you're saying here is that you want your right to not be creeped out to be more important than someone elses right to be here and act as they want to act within the terms of the terms of service. That's just wrong. How would you like it if someone did that to you?
For example, I think people who can't use punctuation and at least something closely resembling proper spelling should have their board privelleges taken away. Do you think that would be fair?
I'll add, you have stated in your profile you are interested in girls sexually. Do you know how many people think that is grounds for keeping you away from their daughters?
I am not being mean, but the internet is like the world. You live in it with different types of people.
On this site, and others, controls are in place, just like your front door, so you can ignore people you don't feel you wish to associate with.
Being ask to join something is not harming you at all. You can just say no thanks.
thanks. that makes sense. **smiles**
Thank you, Cody and Wayne! fair points.